Today’s post should have been about the beautiful Spring blooms all over the mountains around our house. There are so many and they are unique. I’ve really wanted to share them with others. But, my camera is out of batteries, 2 out of 3 vehicles we have are not running, and John left for Merlefest in Wilkesboro, North Carolina in our only running vehicle yesterday. No going out for batteries for me. Instead, we are staying with my mother, and I am posting a blog of laments.
The Merriam Webster Online Dictionary says “lament” as a transitive verb means to regret strongly. I regret strongly – very strongly – that all of my broccoli and tomato seedlings have perished. They got too big for my little Jiffy greenhouse and peat pots and when I moved them to plastic egg cartons and free air, they wilted and died. Apparently, vegetable seedlings are more dainty than flowers. I’ve planted and grew flowers every year of my mature life with great success. This is my first time vegetable gardening on my own. With such a rainy Spring, the ground is too wet to direct seed. The dirt clumps. I am beginning to think that our first attempt at a large garden to feed our family might be more of a learning experience than an experience that ends in an abundance of food.
I also believe that my cloth diapering days have come to an end in great sadness. Yes, I’m saying this the day after Earth Day. I regret it strongly. After moving off grid, I have been battling ammonia stinks in my diapers. I have boiled, boiled, and boiled them. I have stripped, stripped, and stripped them. I have tried countless detergents. I have used baking soda and vinegar together and separately. I have done multiple rinses. Multiple hot rinses. Switched from a pail to a wet bag and back to a pail. The culprit is our hot water heater combined with untreated well water. Our hot water heater is old and doesn’t get very hot without shutting itself off. It does fine for most things like dishwashing and bathing, so we can’t justify purchasing another one just yet. Our water is tainted with sulfur and/or iron and comes from an untreated well. I have come to the conclusion that it will be impossible for me to rid us of the stinkies. I have decided to boil my diapers once more and send my stash of them to a friend due soon. I suppose I’ll be ordering 7th Generation Diapers from www.diapers.com. I’ll be doing this despite the fact that UPS doesn’t acknowledge that our address exists, and I’ll have to have them sent to my mother’s house. It has come to the choice of using bacteria laden diapers on my Ivy, or disposables. It breaks my heart. I truly enjoy using cloth.
Ivy’s first birthday is in 5 days. I will no longer and never again be the mother of an infant. In a way, I too, regret that strongly. I so loved being pregnant and anticipating birth. I so wanted a VBAC (vaginal birth after cesarean) and a homebirth. I relished holding a newborn. Nursing an infant is heavenly. Watching a baby grow from inside your womb to the outside is like watching a miracle. Now, my baby runs. My first born sings her ABCs and plays outside all by herself. Soon, they will have their own pursuits independent of needing me.
Next week will be joyful. John will be home again. We will celebrate Ivy’s birthday. I will get to see my writing in print as I am being published in the upcoming issue of Kudzu Magazine. I won the 2009 Gurney Norman Prize for Short Fiction to my ultimate delight. Gurney Norman is a writing hero of mine, and I think his short story “Fat Monroe” is one of the best ever written. I will get to attend Evening With Poets, and get to workshop with Gurney Norman the next day. After a week of lamenting, I am looking forward to what is ahead.