I’m functioning today on four eight ounce cups of coffee instead of my usual two. The last two days of writing, reading, and meeting my writing Superhero, Gurney Norman, has been rewarding. It has left me exhausted. That and the girls both being poor sleepers. Ivy sitting up in bed at 4am saying “goggie” over and over while kicking Deladis. Deladis is having an allergic reaction to her vigorous play with our Dalmatian, Lars and was itching all night long. Yes, it was a lovely night.
So, far Saturday is a quiet day and I am using it to compile my thoughts on a rhythm for our days. I’ve asked mamas from two online forums I belong too, and I have used the comments I’ve gotten here to make a list of things to keep in mind. I have gotten two days of rhythm down on paper so far. It is already making me feel more at ease. Hopeful. I have also used this uneventful morning to make a store list and plan a loose menu for the week. I’ll be making the 45 minute trip to Hazard with the girls on my own today as John will be playing a Kentucky Derby party at an establishment in Lexington, Kentucky. We’ll see how that goes. It’s an interesting experience to have to drive all over God’s green earth to find the groceries you need.
The following list are things I’m thinking about while developing a rhythm for our household.
- Times should be kept loose. Use the clock only as a guide for what happens next. Some things may take longer than planned, or not as long as planned. Bedtimes are the only thing in the rhythm that might benefit us to follow to the letter.
- The needs of my children come first. With their needs met they will generally be happy and I will find that the time I do get to spend with my husband or alone will be more productive and enjoyable.
- Try to predict repeating behaviors in the girls. For example, Ivy likes to nap about 3 hours after waking in the morning. She likes to eat directly after nap. Deladis likes 3 small meals and 3 large snacks in a day. Make sure she has easy access to appropriate foods. Late afternoons are a trying time. Reserve that for time with the girls.
- Prioritize my exercise routine. It might benefit me to have a scheduled time to wake up on days I want to get extra writing time in, or on days I want to do Ultimate Taebo. I can work on cutting a yoga routine down to smaller chunks of time and focus more on individual poses and their relationships to each other than an hour long routine.
- Do not stress if I don’t get in all the writing time I planned for. Some days I will get more than planned, some less. It will balance out. The important thing is to work at it daily.
- Cut down on blog posts and think more about the quality of writing there. I’m thinking I will post 4 times a week. This will give me more time for fiction writing and working on my novels.
- Computer time needs to be cut back. Utilize the time wisely and do not get sidetracked from the goal.
- Wash dishes after every two meals. This can be done with Ivy on my back if she is out of sorts at the time. Deladis often likes to help with dishes. This will also put me washing dishes once a day instead of twice.
- Choose a major chore to do every weekday in order to keep an orderly house. Ex. Monday – cleaning living room/laundry
- I’ve decided a formal preschool time with Deladis is not necessary. (She won’t like this, but I’m replacing it with more time with her, so I think she will be okay with it after we fall into the rhythm.) Instead, I plan to include her in my activities of housework, gardenwork, cooking, etc… I also plan to include a evening “bedtime” story, and crafts/outside time during set aside family time. More library time.
- Don’t sweat the small stuff… Yes, trite phrase I know, but it’s true. Don’t just plow through the day, but look at each day individually and keep everyone’s needs in mind.
You’re probably thinking at this point, what did their days look like before? Partially organized chaos is your answer. No more, no more. From this list, I’m creating a loose schedule of our days. I plan to follow the same schedule every week until I see another need arise, or the needs of my girls change allowing for more or less time doing certain activities. I will post our schedule as soon as I finish it. Tomorrow’s post will be about meal planning on our new budget.