I’m going to get frank here a minute. I’m a very private person, but when it comes to writing things down I experience a freedom of expression I get no where else. I can be summed up in one word – introverted. That’s me… I’m “in”. I don’t start conversations in real life, or I at least I have to work up the courage to do so and have a dang good reason, but there is something about the written word that lets me lay all my inner thoughts down unapologetically. I’ll air my innermost business to those who read. Whether that is a good thing or not, it is what I am about to do now.
There’s something wrong with me. I should be utterly happy and joyful, but I’m not. I am blessed with all my direct needs met and most of my wants right in front of me. I asked for two children and I have them. I have the greatest husband who is also my best friend. I have been able to move home to my mountains to raise my children in a comfortable place where I feel at home. My surroundings are glorious. Waking each day to these hills and my yard cannot be replaced by anything else in this world. Yet, in my day to day I find myself stressed, rage filled, and down. I could be being hard on myself. My people are known for that, but I think my feelings are needless and selfish.
I’m trying to find the source of my problem. I know at least part of it is something is off with me hormonally. My bloodwork points to thyroid troubles. My spiritual life is lacking. I’m motivated almost to an extreme. My responsibilities are all ones that I want, but I can’t keep up. I’m not sure how to help myself because to admit any kind of weakness is so against my character. It would be a huge step for me.
1. wife and mother of 2 under 4
4. tending the garden
5. tending the chickens
6. writing everyday (blogging/noveling or both)
7. exercise (5 days a week)
I look at that and think… That’s not much at all. What am I? Why can’t I get it done? I see my time with the girls being stifled, stress filled, and I’m unengaged. My house is a wreck most of the time. I keep up with kitchen duties and laundry. The rest is not looking so good. I love my outdoor chores. I manage them. They make me feel solitary, useful, and quiet. I’d much rather do them than anything I do in the house. I keep up well with this blog and I enjoy it. Blogging is instant gratification for a writer when you can look and see how many people are reading what you wrote whether it is 1 or 80. I want more writing time. I want to be a successful writer. I want to help my husband not to have to work so endlessly to provide us with the simplest things. Then, the exercise. I’m starting to admit to myself that I may not have the best relationship with physical activity. Though if I were to post my schedule it would seem normal, I’m not reacting normally to it physically or emotionally.
I’m motivated all right. No lack of that. I lack in the capacity to be all things to myself and my family all the time. Right now I’m doing a half job in a lot of things and a great job in nothing. No one can expect of themselves more than they are capable of doing, or is it just that I’m not together enough to accomplish it all? I think of my sister with a teenager, eight year old, and a toddler all at once, holding down a job, going to nursing school, and keeping a house, while providing a supper as a family every night. She’s my hero. But, as another mother wrote to me… that’s an invisible yardstick I’m measuring by.
In all of this desire, I am pushing back my spirituality. I’m putting my wants first even before my own good. I’m turning my choices into The Creator’s choices for me… or am I? Maybe it is the timing thing. I’m neglecting my spiritual life, but then adding formal spirituality adds another responsibility. I should re-prioritize.
So, yes, I’m coo-coo for cocoa puffs. It comes up every now and again. I am looking more and more to what comes naturally for help. First my God and the purpose for my life. Then, the natural ebb and flow of things… food, work, raising children… How do I let things come and go freely in their own time and still accomplish things? Is it okay to slow down, or is that being lazy? I’ve got to find a happy medium.
The rhythm I tried, which was really a schedule, has went the way of the dodo. I need a plan. I need control of my emotions. I need rest… I so need rest.
Continue reading this week to see how things can come full circle without great effort. Sometimes the answers find their way to us whether we actively seek them or not. 😉